The tough get going

If I wasn't hard, I wouldn't be alive.
If I couldn't ever be gentle, I wouldn't deserve to be alive.

Philip Marlowe

I haven't read novels of Raymond Chandler, but I like this phrase.

A woman says;
If a woman wasn't tougher than a man, she wouldn't be alive.
If a woman couldn't be gentle and pretty, she wouldn't deserve to alive.